“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” — Steve Jobs
In your twenties, you decide things that end up affecting you for a very long time to come.
When you were younger and going to school, it was less common to go against the grain and find your own path. Everyone in school growing up went through the same life phases, and you all went through it together. Even when you dated in high school, your parents knew about it and gave you advice (whether you wanted it or not).
Now it’s the first time you have the chance to go out on a limb and do things on your own.
These days, the double-edged sword is that your freedom can bring you anxiety. From choices about love to decisions about a career path, the things you do now determine where you’re headed for the rest of your life.
Sometimes we hardly realize that the most dangerous decision can be not making a decision at all.
You’re afraid of being single forever, so you date whoever asks you out. You can imagine your dream job, but you need a paycheck now, so you put it on the backburner. You take whatever job you can get for the time being, but then stay there even after you don’t have to.
You take things easy now and tell yourself you’ll figure things out later. The path of resistance is tempting when you’re navigating uncharted waters.
So you end up dissatisfied without even knowing why…
The confusing thing is that you might not even realize you’re stuck at all. You just look at your situation and think, it’s pretty good, but something leaves you uncertain. You feel depressed or bored sometimes, and you think it’s an issue in itself. But when you’re totally honest with yourself, you realize you’re not depressed in any clinical sense…
You just desire a different life but feel so far away from making it a reality that you don’t know where to begin.
But acknowledging that you want a change is the first step. You feel like you have no options, but you actually do. Denying that is the one thing that could paralyze you.
You know that feeling of uneasiness you get when you’re not sure you can do something, but you kind of think you can? It’s totally normal, and that’s all the confidence you need to push forward.
Sometimes you need to chance losing what you have in order move towards what you really want.
Many people’s apparent mistakes lead them to put their energies elsewhere.
A young Walt Disney, for instance, was fired from a newspaper because “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” Oprah Winfrey was fired as a television reporter because she was “unfit for tv.”
Despite circumstances pushing them in the opposite direction, they ended up going places because they didn’t lose sight of what they really wanted. If you’re unhappy with things, you shouldn’t be so afraid of losing the life situation that you have. The possibility of finding what you really want in life is worth the risk of losing what you don’t really want in the long run.