“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.” –Willie Nelson
You’re going through a brutal breakup and the last thing you wanna hear right now is “things happen for a reason.” Like, come on!. You’re emotionally exhausted, your heart is aching and so over feeling like you’ve been deprived of happiness forever.
Right now, you just can’t find any sense of solace in a few words of encouragement.
Because you simply cannot comprehend how life can be so unfair. You loved passionately and intensely and in the blink of an eye, it all went to shit. You can’t accept it and absolutely nothing can ease the pain that you’re feeling right this second.
The memories that you built with him are all you can think about and the thought of him kissing you again literally consumes every second of your day. He’s all you ever wanted and you can’t fathom life without him. You wonder, how am I ever going to get him off my mind? How is my body ever going feel like he made me feel?
It’s a pressure in your chest that makes it almost impossible to hold back your tears. It’s brutal.
The excruciating pain that you’re feeling is totally valid, so allow yourself to be with your emotions but try not to elaborate on negative thinking.
The intensity of the pain you’re feeling can only go so far. It can push and push until you feel that you can’t handle it anymore, but it’s only when you feel that you can’t possibly take it anymore that it will transform you.
You might not be aware of how this situation is truly highlighting your inner badass but in a twisted way, it is.
I know you want answers and closure because it all seems bleak and senseless. But heartache is an internal process you have to come to terms with if you truly want this situation to work in your favor. And it will trust that it will.
The truth is, one day soon when you allow the pain to take its course without judgment and regret, all those emotions will convert into a lesson learned.
You’ll see things clearer and what didn’t make sense before, would had already made a positive impact in your heart.
You’ll look back at that one moment you fell in love with him and you’re gonna ask yourself if you were actually sane that day. You’ll realize that he’s proven you to be less than what you truly deserve, and you’re gonna promise yourself to be wiser next time.
You’ll know then that the experience with him had nothing to do with the definition of “true love” or “unmeasurable joy” but instead, it had all to do with finding the inner strength you needed to experience true happiness.
You can’t allow heartbreak to destroy your faith in love but instead enhance it.
Allow all this pain to guide you out of your idea of what he meant to you. The truth is, you were not in love with him but with your idea of him. Plain and simple.
Brutal breakups are enlighting if we let them show us who we really are and what our hearts are truly worthy of.
This is why girls who endure a brutal breakup win at happiness. They’re eager to find purpose in the situation. They look past what’s hidden behind the disappointment and don’t settle for just suffering through it.
They’re willing to examine what went wrong – even if it means realizing that it didn’t work out because of something they need to change or reassess within themselves.
Girls who go through unbearable heartbreak decide to not play the victim. Instead, they learn from what life has put in their path without judgment.
They’re willing to turn the pain into something positive. They decide to become resilient to the chaos and force themselves to look at the situation from a healthy and practical perspective in order to overcome the emotional turmoil.
Yes, heartbreak truly sucks, but sometimes it’s painfully necessary to make you realize that what you want right now is not necessarily what your heart truly deserves.
Half ass love can blind you and make you settle for a relationship that doesn’t even come close to your capacity to love and receive love.
Embracing heartache undoubtedly puts you in the path of true happiness. Because heartbreak opens you to the possibility of finding true love. It forces you to realize that what you had was not the ultimate love you’re destined to have and pushes you to love yourself even more to find it.
It makes you focus on what truly matters and it makes you discover other amazing traits about yourself you never knew you had.
In the end, any way you slice it, a brutal breakup makes you grow and evolve into a happier version of yourself.