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8 Things to Know Before Dating The Girl With a Dark Past

Sure, we all have pasts, but some of us have exceptionally dark ones. We’ve been through a lot and we’ve somehow made it out alive.

A girl with a dark past is complex and intense, and there are definitely some things to know before sweeping her off her feet:

1. She may not open up right away…

But that’s just because she’s been hurt in the past. If you’re into her, show her. Prove to her that you’re in it for the long haul.

The thing is, she’ll definitely be worth the time and effort.

2. But when she does let you in, you’re there to stay.

She may have a hard shell, but once you get to know her, you’ll see that her soft center is what makes her really special.

She’s incredibly loyal, so if you’ve managed to gain her trust and her love, there will have to be a damn good reason to lose it.

3. Learn her triggers, so that you can be there for her.

Sometimes the most trivial things will trigger her pain – if it’s a certain song that reminds her of someone she’s lost, or a time of year that’s especially sensitive for her – make that day fun for her, or surprise her with a little gift.

Doing the littlest things – like putting your hand on her back when something comes up – lets her subtly know that you care to remember these things for her.

4. She doesn’t sweat the little things.

She knows pain, abandonment, loss, abuse, and sadness. Keep in mind that whatever it was that hurt her so much in the past, she carries with her all the time.

This means that she definitely understands not to get upset over silly things – I mean, what’s the point? Life is only so long, so we might as well enjoy it.

5. She also appreciates the simple things in life.

Experiencing pain has caused her to slow down a little and smell the coffee. Some people just run through life without ever noticing some of the most beautiful parts of it.

She sees beauty in some of the most trivial things. She’ll notice even the smallest effort that you put in to make her happy.

6. Try to be delicate with her feelings.

She is a master at appearing fine – even when she’s not. Over time she has learned how to mask her pain, so you may need to be a little extra gentle with her.

Here’s the thing, she may appear strong, but the most broken ones always do.

7. She brings a whole new meaning to the word strength.

If you’re going through a rough time, open up to her. She, of all people, knows how to tackle difficult situations because she’s seen it all.

She’s hoping that you will love her, with all of her brokenness, so she wants to be there for you too.

8. She knows what real happiness is…

And she’ll want to share every inch, every bit, and every piece of that joy with you. She knows high highs, and low lows.

Because at the end of the day, she only knows true happiness because she has known real sadness.

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