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This Is How You Know He's Not the One Your Heart Should Fight For

“One of the hardest decisions you’ll ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder”

Love is challenging but most of all, it’s tricky. It’s tricky because there’s a fine line between fighting for what you love and hurting yourself in the name of what you think it’s love but it’s not. Yes, love takes hard work, commitment and dedication, and when it’s the real deal, it can be the most amazing feeling that your mind and soul can ever experience. So, that’s why you want to make sure you’re not putting your hands on fire for anything less than what you deserve, just because you’re hoping it can turn into what your heart desires. 

If you’re with someone who you slightly suspect is acting shady towards you and the relationship you share, you have to be strong and train your heart to identify what’s acceptable and what’s not in the name of love. A lot of times we love the person so much, it becomes very easy to justify their shitty behavior. It seems that in the short term, it’s less painful to admit that something is definitely off with your significant other. And I get it, you want to protect your heart and avoid the heartbreak but if he’s a douche in disguise, sooner or later your heart will end up in shambles.

The truth is, he’s not worth your love and your time if your whole being is telling you something is not right with the way he’s treating you. Instinct is always on your side and if you listen to it, his confusing manipulation will not be able to hold your heart hostage.  

So in case you’re having a hard time understanding what your intuition is trying to tell, please know that nothing can justify his name calling, slight pushes or yelling. If he’s starting fights more often than not and blaming you for them, he’s wrong for doing so. You have to really ask yourself what his motivations are because love doesn’t look like that and it’s most definitely not expressed in a way that makes you feel like shit about yourself. Even if he’s calling it “love” anything he does to you that makes you feel sad, small, humiliated, shameful, degraded or just plain unloved, should not be tolerated. Not in the slightest. 

You have to resist the need to accept any type of hurtful behavior. It’s not love, and it never will be. Love is not sustained by hurt. It never is. You might feel confused since he treated you well in the beginning. He was probably good at fulfilling the idea you had of what love feels like, but if it was only for a brief time, he’s just not the guy you think he is.  

Love is kind and gentle. When someone loves you, they respect you and do everything in their power to protect your heart. True love is challenging but never toxic. Someone who truly loves you would never cross the line, not even by mistake. They don’t hold false promises or lie over and over again. The right person commits to your heart and takes pride in being loyal to you always. 

You deserve true love, so don’t make excuses for anything less than. You have the last saying in how your heart should be treated. Protect your heart and don’t allow any guy to take away your right to be wholeheartedly loved.  

“Don’t let the heart that didn’t love you, keep you from the one that will” 

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