If You Don't Want The Stupid Labels That's Fine, Just Let A Girl Know

Look I get it not everyone likes the labels. It can be that you might not be ready or we haven't defined quite what we have yet. But what I need is for you to be upfront – be direct – tell me what you want or don't want and let's go from there. Labels are made by people who want them. And we don't need them unless we absolutely need them – but if all you want is causal say it. If all you are looking for is the serious commitment type name it. 

I need you tell me what we are and want to be so I can be on the same page as you. The last thing I want is to be disappointed because I thought we were one thing, and you in your right mind think we are another. We should be at the point where we can communicate to each other what it is we need. What it is we want. And honestly being grown-ups means we should know how to communicate.

So tell me. If you don't want all the labels that come with being – let a girl know. 

We are adults we should able to talk about our needs and desires. 

There is frustration found in getting mixed signals from someone. Not only does it cause way more stress than need be, but it leaves people wondering where it is one stands.You feel worse – because a girl doesn't know what is going. You don't know whether to be comfortable or upset. 

And I don't know what we are – so I need you to speak it out. I need you to let me know and be honest about it because at the end of the day I have other people I can be searching after. And mixed signals in relationships don't do it for me.

It leaves me confused – it leaves me wondering – and I frankly am not about that life. 

The thing is labels can be stupid – but if we never discuss anything then I feel I am wasting my time. I have time to figure things out even if that means it is not with you. It's a real concern if you don't want anything solid but never tell me straight up.

I don't want to take on being a "maybe" in someone's court – if at the end of the day I never knew that is what I would always be.

If we are going to be exclusive let's say that. Let's be confident in it. But if labels aren't what we are focusing on – if you are pretty sure labels just make you feel icky then all you need to do is state that.

Stop making excuses and be bold with what you want and how you need it.  Labels aren't everything but if you are not invested in this enough to at least tell me this is or what you want then I am out. 

I know that things take time – relationships or whatever it is this takes time, and I don't want to assume anything. But I need to know how to work through whatever it is we have. 

Because if you can't be upfront with me, I am going to assume I am not the one you want anything to do with. I'm going to assume that you are in the habit of playing games, and frankly I have better things to do.

Because at the end of the day, I have better things to do than  remain waiting around for someone who is not aware of what they want. 

If you don't want the stupid labels that is fine, but you really need to let a girl know.

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