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If It Feels like Your Life Is a Total Mess Since Your Breakup, Read This

Do not allow yourself to become a victim of circumstance. Don’t succumb to the victim mentality that is so easy to slip into.

I know it feels like all of your dreams are turning into nightmares and that the sun is never going to rise again, but your life is more than a sob story and your purpose exceeds the things that have happened to you. 

So it’s time to stop simply reacting to everything life throws at you and start leading yourself through it instead. And if you choose to pull yourself through it, life will get better. 

There is life after heartache. 

You don’t always get to choose what storms you have to weather, but you can choose to teach yourself how to be a shelter of peace during the storm.

Learn to identify your own toxic behaviors and how to take control of them. Stop begging other people to love you and start loving yourself. 

Don’t lose sight of what’s important in this life and don’t ever stop fighting for what you deserve. 

While I cannot promise you that you will never endure another painful experience, I can promise you that this isn’t the end of the world. Even if it feels like it, just know that it’s not.

This isn’t over, you are not over. Even when you feel like a complete failure, just remember that the only time you truly fail is when you stop growing. 

And I promise that something will grow from everything that you’re going through, and it will be you. 

One day you’ll look back and see how far you’ve come and you’re going to know that it was all worth it. 

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