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Effort is All She Wants from Him

The truth is, the sexiest and most attractive thing a guy can do is give a shit. In other words, all a guy has to do to sweep us off our feet is put in the work, show that you care. Don’t waste our time being a douche or pretending to be something you’re not. It’s really not that hard, if you put in the effort, you’ll be the most desirable guy in our eyes.

You got it wrong if you think that playing games is going to get you far with me. In the contrary, none of your “playing hard to get” actions and attitudes really fly. I know they’re total bullshit and don’t really add anything to your efforts to appear attractive, interesting or mature. I can see right through your bs; like when you intentionally wait to answer my texts hours later, when you cancel our plans last minute or how you always leave it up to me up to make plans to hang out.

News flash; Giving zero fucks it’s not attractive.

If you spent the same amount of time trying to appear disinterested in actually putting in the work to be a decent human being, you’d be surprised of how much you’d get out of hanging out with me. You would allow yourself to have a legit human connection with someone that might make you see and feel things you never thought possible. What you probably don’t know is that being an asshole is preventing you from living fully.

Just care a little, get a taste of how far showing some vulnerability gets you. I promise that you won’t regret it. Showing your real colors is an indication of strength and that’s attractive AF. I know it might be scary to open up to a girl, but I guarantee that doing so doesn’t make me think you’re desperate, it actually makes me think you want to make space in your world for me. It shows me that you’re not afraid to risk getting hurt because what’s more important to you is being open to experience a sincere connection with me.

Show me that you have a heart and you’ll have my undivided attention. Show me that you care and I’ll put my guard down. Put in the effort and I’ll show you who I really am. Stick around and I’ll give you my heart.

It’s really not a lot to ask, if you really like me and want me, cut to the bullshit and be straightforward with me. Be a real man and have the decency to treat me with respect because I won’t give you the time a day if you give me any less.

If you just wanna be a hot shot,  your game ends here. If you’re looking for something real then all you have to do is be willing to give this a fair chance and that can only happen if you open yourself to this experience fully and wholeheartedly.