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An Open Letter to My Son's Future Step-Mom

I haven’t met you yet. (Or maybe I have, who knows.) I’m not even sure if my sons father has met you yet, but I know if he hasn’t that one day he will. 

I always knew that one day there would be another woman in my sons life since the day his father and I split, and since we are now to that point I want you to know one major thing: 

I support you. 

I only want what’s best for my son, and I trust his fathers judgment almost as much as I trust my own. 

While we didn’t work out we have always and will always keep his needs ahead of our own. So the fact that you have been chosen to play such a vital part in my sons life, well I’m ecstatic. 

Maybe you have already had kids and are also bringing a sibling or two for my son, maybe this will be your first rodeo. Either way, I’m here. I don’t hate you, even though I’m supposed to. 

I won’t be upset if you go out of your way to spoil my child, he’s a cutie and it’s hard not too. I won’t be mad if you discipline him. He needs to know to respect you just like he does his father and I. 

Communicate with me, talk to me. The only way you could ruin the positive relationship I want our families to have is by pushing me away. 

I’m not looking to bring in any baby mama drama I assure you. 

I’m actually excited in the idea that my son could have two families who love him so much. I don’t want you to ever feel guilty for loving my son. I’ll always be his momma, but no one said he couldn’t have two! 

Now I’m not saying this will be easy, we will eventually disagree. Me and his father do, but it’s important we talk it out and compromise. 

We will have boundaries, and we will both need to learn to respect those. That might take a little trial and error, but that’s ok. Just always remember, at the end of it all I can’t hate someone my son loves. So even when it’s hard, remember that I support you. 

Welcome to the family girl, you’re in for a wild ride!