Our generation has a different way of doing relationships, this is no secret. From ghosting instead of breaking up, to side chicks being the norm, to “talking” but refusing to actually date… We are a mess.
Lately, I’ve noticed an overwhelming amount of people who just flat out don’t want to be in relationships at all, or openly admit that they can’t commit to a relationship.
So, out of curiosity, I found 5 millennials willing to open up and tell in their own words exactly why they haven’t been able to, or don’t want to commit to a relationship.
1. She was a habitual cheater.
I’m an ex habitual cheater. I didn’t stay away from relationships, I just couldn’t commit to them, and here’s why: I always thought there was just something wrong with me. Like I couldn’t choose or make a decision.
After I went to a shrink, I came to discover that the truth was that I grew up feeling as though my mom had abandoned me. So, knowing that you could love someone unconditionally and have them still be able to just give you up and walk away, scared the living shit out of me.
It took me falling in love, and an entire year until I finally was able to remain faithful. I’m currently 8 months “sober”.
– Addison, 25
2. She doesn’t want to be controlled.
I stay away from relationships because I’m selfish with my time and freedom. I don’t want to have to be around someone when I don’t feel the desire to. I need time to myself and most guys don’t understand that.
I also don’t want to have to answer to someone else about my decisions. I don’t want to be controlled. I want to talk to who I want, when I want, and not have to explain why I spent $60 on an eye shadow palette, or get in trouble for getting wasted with my girls at the club on Friday.
I want to have fun and be able to do as I please.
– Kristen, 23
3. No one is good enough for him.
I stopped dating because no one did it for me. I’d find girls with things in common with me, but not enough things. They’d make me happy and make me laugh, but not enough. There was never that ‘spark’.
When they’d want to become something more serious, I couldn’t make myself do it because even though things weren’t terrible, I just felt they were simply mediocre and that wasn’t enough for me.
– Scott, 27
4. She’s tired of being cheated on.
Literally every single guy I’ve given a chance has cheated on me. NO ONE has ever been able to remain faithful.
I don’t know if the problem is me, or just my judgement when it comes to guys, but either way, I became tired of feeling that hurt. So, I just no longer date.
– Allie, 22
5. He just isn’t ready.
I’m not in a position where I feel like I’m ready or established enough to bring anyone else into my life. I don’t have my own place, and I’m still not sure what I want to do for a career.
I’m still living the party life and trying to figure things out. I know for a fact that I can’t fully commit to anyone right now, so why give them the idea that I can? I’d rather just not date.
– Matt, 26
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