What Every 20-Something Needs To Realize

We are such in a hurry to plan. We follow a certain checklist for life; we choose a school right out of high school, then a job right after school, we go to that job every day, even if we hate it. We don’t allow ourselves time; we feel a constant stress to decide, to go with the proper thing to do, what is expected of us. 

We plan everything. We often take the next step, and the next, and the next, living a life that is anticipated from us. And then one day we wake up depressed, stressed out, a pressure slowly caving in on us and we don’t know why. 

We tolerate our lives. We follow a straight line and then we start living the motions ahead of time; slowly becoming less and less alive. And then we wonder why depression and anxiety is at an all time high. When we don’t allow ourselves time to backtrack and figure out what inspires us we become disconnected, we know what to expect and there is no time and space for getting lost, getting off track and therefore having to smack right into the real you; the you that is unwilling to settle for anything less than what you innately desire. 

We forget that sometimes the only way to connect with ourselves that is the most raw, alive and happy is to first become lost, get off track and off the trail. The defining moments of your life will not be the moments when you did the proper thing to do; it’s when you chose to live your life in a way that is unique to you. 

At the end, this is your life. There is no straight path; life is not a set timeline of landmarks. Be here, be present. We’re afraid of the unknown, but that’s the whole point of life – only when we face our fears can we tap into an extraordinarily blissful life.

Don’t settle for the wrong person. There is no rush. Be patient, wait for a love that makes your cells dance. Learn to be alone; this will force you to wake up and cultivate a life that you actually want, it will force you to grow into the person you want to be. You can only attract what you put out, fall in love with yourself first: Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. Only then will you be sure when you meet the right person, because you will be sure of yourself.

I’m sick of this loneliness, of feeling boxed in, caged in. I’m sick of destroying all the possibilities that live inside us because we feel like we need to live a life that is expected of us. 

Life happens and once it’s gone, it’s gone. Stop trying to fulfill some checklist for life; give yourself time to figure out what it is that makes you feel alive.