An Open Letter to the Girl Who Loves Too Hard

You probably think there’s something wrong with you.

You probably think that there’s something wrong with the fact that you love people so hard – maybe someone has told you that you’re clingy.

That’s what it was, wasn’t it? You loved someone, and they told you that your love was suffocating, that it was annoying, that it was abnormal. They told you they didn’t want it.

And it blew your mind, because how can people not want love? How are there people out there that rebuke some of the most basic things a person can offer, like love, and care, and affection?

The first time this happened, it broke your heart, because you didn’t understand why they wouldn’t want to be loved. The next time this happened, and the next, and the next, it broke your heart because you thought that they didn’t want you.

It’s just your love they don’t want, you started thinking to yourself. There’s something wrong with your love, and that’s why they refused it.

But that’s not true at all.

As the girl who loves too hard, you are all too aware of the fact that people need to be loved aggressively, uncompromisingly, and forcefully. People need to be shown that they are deserving of love. They need to be loved with every bit of strength you can muster.

And you, as the girl who loves too hard, have the incredible way of having so much of it to give. You never seem to run out of it.

Over and over again you get told that there is such a thing as loving something too much, but the truth is that you love everything just the right amount.

You have a love for things that everyone ignores. You love the ugliest parts of people, even after they’ve tried to use those parts against you.

That’s what makes you amazing!

People are so selfish with their love nowadays, so frugal – they treat it like it’s currency, like there’s something toxic about allowing yourself to fall hard and fast into love and into friendship and into life. They are penny-pinchers with their affections, hoarding it as if they can stock up on it and trade it in for something good.

You know better.

You know that love is a gift, and you treasure it and share it because that’s what you do with precious things, like birthday cakes and time.

So never stop. Never stop loving too hard, or caring too much, or trying enough, because there is a serious lack of love freely given in the world today.

There is nothing wrong with you.