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5 Promises You Should Never Ever Make

Being known as someone who’s true to their word is a distinction that takes a long time to earn, but one that sets you apart as someone who’s trustworthy and follows through when they make a commitment.  In a world where things change at the drop of a hat and social media allows for every single kind of social interaction to take place on a screen, being completely reliable and honest is quite a virtue.

We all make promises to the people we love, but how often do we actually hear the words come out of our own mouth and know that we’ll keep that promise beyond a shadow of a doubt?  Some promises just aren’t within our power to keep.  Others are almost impossible to stay true to, no matter how hard we try.

Some promises can’t be made, and others just shouldn’t.

  1. “I will love you forever.”

    When you’re in love, it certainly feels that way, but can anyone really say for sure that they’ll love this person for the rest of their life?  I mean, I suppose that’s the point of getting married, but short of getting hitched, you probably shouldn’t promise this to someone.  Hell, tons of marriages end in divorce, not that anyone foresees that when they’re standing at the altar, vowing to love this person forever but…it does happen.

  2. “I will never break your heart.”

    You might never intentionally break someone’s heart, but that doesn’t mean you won’t do it on accident or without planning to.  There are things that just aren’t in your control.  You could die in a plane accident and break your true love’s heart.  Someday you might fall in love with someone else and break a heart in the process.  Remember, you shouldn’t make promises you can’t keep, and this is one of those.

  3. “Someday, I’m going to buy you _______.”

    Maybe you’ve said this to your parents or your partner.  “Someday I’ll buy you the house you deserve.”  Or, “Someday I’ll buy you the most amazing engagement ring ever.”  You shouldn’t promise that kind of thing.  Someone who truly loves you won’t hold you to it or make you feel bad if you can’t see it through, but you’ll feel bad and you’ll feel like you’ve failed if it doesn’t work out.  Don’t do that to yourself.

  4. “I’ll always be there for you.”

    You can try, but life sure has a way of screwing up plans.

  5. “I’ll never lie to you.”

    How many people can say that and honestly mean it?  You think you mean it when you say it, but unless you’re Gandhi or Mother Teresa, it’s a promise you probably won’t keep.  And lets be honest, Gandhi and Mother Teresa probably told a few lies in their day too.