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What Women Really Want: A Guide For All the Guys Out There

I’ve heard it too many times: girls just want to be loved.

The sound of these words put together into one sentence makes me cringe. As if women are just these beings walking around Earth with no purpose in life other than to be loved by men?

Well, I want more than that. I need more than that.

So, to all the men out there who think we just wanna be loved, here’s what we want even more:

1. I want to be challenged.

I want to be questioned – and defied, and tried. I want to be stimulated. I have an opinion and I know that it won’t always be the same as yours.

Tell me. Tell me that I’m wrong. Rouse the batteries in my brain to make me more inquisitive, and I’ll challenge you right back.

2. I want to be inspired.

I have passions, and dreams, and thoughts. Make me have more.

Motivate me to create, to indulge, to be original. Spark ideas and encourage me to execute them. Have ambitions and aspirations, and let me have my own – we can tackle them together

3. I want to be rejected.

I don’t want to be accepted; I want to stand out. I want to fail – and then fail again. You won’t need to pick me up, because I’ve stood on my own before and I can do it again.

And I’ve only learned what it means to succeed by slipping down the backside of life. You can be my rock when I’m flailing, but don’t try to protect me from failure: I can handle it.

4. I want to be nurtured.

Because even when I try to be strong and tough, you being sensitive and caring will always comfort me.

Be my listener and supporter. Know that I won’t always need you to challenge my viewpoints; sometimes you need to simply hold my hand through the storm.

5. I want to be admired.

I want you to be proud of me – for my failures and my successes. I want you to be proud to be my partner, my best friend, and my main squeeze.

I want to be adored and cherished and appreciated – not just simply loved. Because I will do the same for you.

6. I want to be respected.

Even if I am committed to you – and only you – at the end of the day, I am still my own person.

I want privacy, independence, and freedom. If I’ve committed to you, it’s because I want to share my life with you, not give my life to you.

You complement me; you don’t complete me.

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