Friendships are like plants. You need to give them water so they grow.
1. Check in on them.
Friendship isn’t just getting drunk together on Friday nights and texting each other about your hangovers. Friendships last when you check in on each other on weeknights, asking how their week is going, and making sure they’re getting through life okay.
2. Separate friend time from bae time.
Your friends are friends with you first and foremost. And sometimes, they just wanna see your face and your face only. Not every occasion is one where you can bring your boo around. Know the difference.
3. Go to the bathroom with them.
Um, because that’s just what friends do.
4. Wait for them, when they ask you to.
5. Pick your battles.
Some things we can change, some things we can’t. It’s about knowing what is an issue that’s worth being addressed, and what isn’t. Recognizing that will help you in the long run.
6. On the other hand, don’t let things build up for too long.
If you feel like there’s an issue gnawing at your chest that you simply cannot shake, you need to talk about it. People often do things or act in ways they don’t even realize. So by bringing it up, you’ll help them be more careful next time.
7. Use every excuse to celebrate.
Work promotion? Treat yo’selves. Just worked out? Treat yo’selves. Put pants on today? Treat yo’selves.
The reasons to celebrate simply never end.
8. Avoid passive aggressive behavior.
Nothing kills a friendship or relationship like the poison we call passive aggressive behavior. It’s a silent and toxic thing that does nothing but confuse people and create stress. Simply put: Don’t do it. Your friendship should be able to handle the truth.
9. Compliment the f*ck out of each other.
Nothing like hearing “B*tch, you’re beautiful” to get you through the day.
10. Take their side.
Okay, every story has two sides, but acting neutral all the time can actually hurt your friend in the long run. People need their feelings confirmed, and taking a middle of the road view will leave them feeling stranded and alone. This doesn’t mean letting your friends get away with murder – no – just that you understand where their feelings are coming from is enough.
11. Be honest if they look like sh*t.
Sorry, but friends don’t let friends go outside looking like they just fell into a trashcan.
12. Respect boundaries.
All friends go through periods where they’re together, literally, all the time. And other periods where they take time to refocus and relax, where maybe you don’t see each other as much (a week tops, though, let’s be real). Use these times to grow, and develop, and work on yourself so you’ll be fully refreshed when you see your friend.
13. Compromise and move on.
Not everyone’s gonna see things eye to eye all the time. We don’t all sh*t gold stars. The best thing we can do as humans is to agree to disagree sometimes, reach some sort of conclusion that hurts the least, and move on from the situation. Done and dusted.
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