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When you give everything you have to a man

   I gave my whole self to you, I had your children and worked and waited on your every move. I forgot who I was. When I left you, I had to start over in finding myself. That happens when you are with someone for so long you forget who you are. When the responsibilities got to hard you left me on my own to figure it out. I was so busy working and raising our children to focus on me. I was always on the back burner.

   It took a whileand a lot of sleepless nights but I finally started to feel like myself again. Ifinally looked in the mirror and decided I was beautiful unique and special. Ifigured out what tv shows and food I enjoyed, I was hanging out with friendsand family again, and even working out. I laughed and smiled like I hadn’t inforever, my skin even had a glow to it. I had my confidence back. Mypersonality back.

   Then I met himunexpectedly, we started to talk and that is all I wanted to do was talk tohim. He was sweet, made me laugh, and genuinely cared about me and my children.Now almost 2 years later and I find myself falling into the same needypatterns. I think about what he wants for dinner, what he wants to do, or whatshows he wants to watch. I have stopped thinking of myself. 

 Then one night hewas at work and I thought to myself what do I want to do tonight? I honestlyhad no clue. I could see I was starting to lose myself again and I could seehis feelings fading as well. So, I sat down and wrote a list of my favoritethings. I started taking time to do things I enjoyed. I was being selfish foronce in my life and it felt amazing. Guess what he started to miss me and be intriguedwith me as well. 

 It is still aconstant battle but threw my heartbreak I have learned who I am and to lovemyself. My advice to any girl is do not give your all to a guy and do not completelychange who you are for any man because if he ever decides to leave you willhave nothing. Never forget who you are it is ok to be selfish. If you don’tlove yourself first you are never going to be fully capable of giving your loveto anyone else.