I'm glad so many people find the one their heart wants to love forever without having to experience years of waiting or pining over them.
But I'm not everyone and that's definitely not for me.
I've always been a hopeless romantic, don't get me wrong. I'm enamored with the idea of having love in my life. I dream about the day I meet a man that will stand by my side throughout the rest of my life.
I, like most people, continue to want that “sweep you off of your feet” feeling. I want to meet the person that will make my world seem a little brighter. The one that my heart recognizes as its other half.
I'm not in a rush to meet him. I'm not set on waiting for him before I start the next chapter of my life or saving every big moment until I have someone to share them with.
I'm not planning on going out of my way or altering my life and who I am to meet him.
While you look at me and see a woman that's on her own and alone, I see a young woman that's still trying to find her way in this world.
You see a lonely woman, and I just see someone that happens to be single.
I get that it's tough to understand when you're not in my position, but I don't need you to pity me. I don't need you to try and push a relationship my way. I don't need you to try and concoct some poor attempt to fix me because I'm not broken.
Being single is just my relationship status. It's not who I am and does not in any way define me or make me any less happy than the next person.
I'm completely okay with being on my own.
I'm glad that I've learned to be content with being single. I'm pleased that I didn't have someone to depend on and learned to face life alone because I now have the satisfaction of knowing if necessary, I can do it alone.
I'm happy that I've gotten to grow into the person I wanted to be before I met someone because in all honesty, I was a complete mess. If I'd met the right person back then, who knows if he would have stayed around.
So, please stop looking at me like I'm missing out on something. Stop thinking that I'm incomplete because I don't have an “other half”. Stop assuming I'm lonely because I'm alone.
I'm happy with my life and perfectly content with being on my own for the time being. I'm not miserable or wallowing, and when the time comes I'm completely open to falling in love.
So please, back off just a little bit and let me enjoy my life in the meantime.
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