Have you ever been friend-zoned?
If not, this complex term is the horrible experience of falling for someone that will never see you as more than a close friend.
But you didn't just friend-zone me, you Extreme Friend-Zoned me.
This word is the gut-wrenching, heart-breaking, spirit crushing experience of falling for someone that sees you as nothing more than a "brother" or a "sister".
You didn't just say that we were friends, or that you simply didn't see me as anything more than a friend, but you specifically said that I'm like a "sister" to you.
And what did I do?
I sat there like a damn idiot and nodded along. "Awe, thanks", because that's really what every girl wants to hear from the man she's fallen for.
We definitely don't want to hear how much you wish we could be something more or how much you love us.
I mean, what did you expect in a situation like this? Did you expect me to be grateful that the man I've fallen in love with only saw me as a "sister"? Would anyone be grateful for that?
No, they wouldn't.
They'd be absolutely devastated that they weren't good enough for you to see any more with them. I'm absolutely devastated that you couldn't see any more with me...
This whole time we've been friends you've been leading me down a path that made me believe that you possibly felt something more for me than you said or lead everyone else to believe.
You're always telling me how beautiful I am, how smart I am, how lucky you are to have me in your life...
Then why am I just the "sister" to you? If I'm so great and "anyone would be lucky to have me", then why don't you want me in your life as more than I am? Are these just words you say to be nice or do you actually mean them?
I never really understood the point of saying words that you didn't mean. I've always been a firm believer in the saying, "Say what you mean and mean what you say".
And if you've really meant everything you've said then I wouldn't have anything to be upset over.
The truth of the matter is that if you really do see me as a "sister" then you're awful at showing it. You would never treat or talk to your sister like you have me.
And if you don't see me as a "sister" then you are horrible at communicating.
Your actions and words are saying two completely different things here and I'm more confused than I've ever been. I'm not sure whether I should believe your actions or your words.
Actions usually speak louder than words, but this time... your words are pretty damn loud and extremely hard to ignore.
So, let me lay it all out there for you...
I've fallen in love with a man that may or may not love me back. I've fallen in love with a man that treats me like I hung the moon and stars, yet calls me his "sister".
I've fallen in love with a man that is beyond confusing but is always sweet, caring, smart, funny and attractive. I've fallen in love with a man who completes and understands me.
I've fallen in love with a man that is my best friend. I've fallen in love with you and everything that is us.
There's nothing else I can do or say, so...
It's your move.
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