Everyone thinks almost relationships are the worst. The not knowing, the over-thinking and lack of commitment. But they don’t have to be, they can fit your life’s journey like a glove without leaving any heartache behind. If you don’t think it’s possible, just find out how I can have an almost relationship without getting too attached, and you’ll see how it might work for you too.
I focus on the awesome things I already have in my busy life. I have great friends, a wonderful family, and a packed schedule. I really don’t think anything else should be my top priority right now. Trying to fit someone in my life full time sounds like a lot of work. Extra work I'm just not willing to put in especially if whatever little time off I have I rather spend it by myself, simply because...
I just looove my alone time. There are times that I don't want to go out. I just want to curl up on my couch and read my favorite book or watch my favorite tv shows. I’m perfectly ok enjoying time alone without anyone else there distracting me. I don’t really have any voids in my heart I need to fill in with a significant other.
At this point in my life, I'm perfectly ok having someone there when it is convenient. It may sound a bit brash and selfish but it’s not. I’m just being fair. The truth is, if you're not in love, you might just find someone for when it's convenient and that's ok. To have someone to spend time with a few times a month is what is right for me. I can have fun, get to know an awesome guy, and then go back to my busy life. And he can do the same.
There is no obligatory small talk about each other’s days. There is no getting into a boring routine. Things are always fun and interesting so...
Commitment is not needed or necessary. I'm already committed to myself and all the things that are important to me in my life; My job, friends, my gym, my committees. I don't spend my time worrying about what he is doing or who he is doing it with.
I'm confident enough to know that if he cares about me, then what I have to offer is enough. And if it's not enough then I can wish him well and continue on with my life. At the end of the day...
If it's meant to be, it will be. I'm a firm believer in that If things go well, eventually I can start to mix him into other parts of my life. But who am I to push, control or manipulate the natural course of things? I’m not into living my life in fear, worried about the future if I honestly have no control over it. If seeing him only once a week, will stop working for me. I'm just that we will adjust accordingly.
But for now, my almost relationship is fun and exciting. It fits my schedule and my life perfectly. It is what is right for me.
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