She does things that other people who haven't experienced trauma or abuse don't do. She's unique in her ways because of her past abuse. It may have been physical, emotional or a combination of both.
Either way, these are things she does without knowing or putting a conscious thought to it. Other times, she may not be consciously aware of what she's doing until people question her and that brings to her awareness it was from past abuse.
She Isolates her heart from those who genuinely care about it
She doesn't mean to push people away. She just doesn't want to be hurt like she has been in the past. She may give people a reason to walk away by acting or behaving in ways she knows will get to someone.
She’s on constant high alert because she feels life can no longer be trusted
Trauma has a strong hold of her heart. She's like a ball of anxiety just waiting for the worst case scenario. While she's walking, she looks behind her and across from her. She doesn't notice she's doing this until someone points it out to her.
Making a judgment call takes her on a downward spiral
This girl always questions whether or not she is making the right decision. She feels she may give someone the benefit of the doubt and regret it later because of abuse because…
She believes many people have an ulterior motive or hidden agenda
Trusting others is almost impossible. She tends to do this with new people in her life regardless of whether or not it's a new friendship or possible romantic relationship. She doesn't consciously know she is doing this but she asks herself questions such as "why is his person being so nice to me" or "what does this person want with me". And this is why...
There is still a wall or two up to protect her fragile and beaten heart
She doesn't realize that no matter how hard she tries, opening up to people is not an easy task.
But she tries her hardest to be there for others. She doesn't want people to feel the sadness and anger she felt in the past.
She's a good soul. She may be difficult for some time because all she knows is distorted.
Give her time. Show her instead of speaking it. Be honest and loyal. I promise, she's worth it.