Honestly guys, we shouldn't have to ask for your attention.
But for some reason none of you have the ability to understand the things we need, and lord knows you never pick up on subtle hints. So it seems we need to spell it out for you.
Often times we're seen as overly needy, highly demanding, or extremely unsatisfied— when really the truth of the matter is, we're actually quite simple to please, all you have to do is spend time with us, and when you do...
Give us all of your attention. You can't half-ass a relationship. Give us 100% of your effort when we're together or we'll find someone else who will, but we'd really much rather it was you.
And that doesn't have to mean anything more than being present. We don't need big romantic gestures, or extravagant gifts, well not all the time at least. We just need you to look at us when you speak and actually listen when we do.
We don't want to compete with technology for your attention. You being on your phone sends a very clear message— that we aren't as important as whatever's going on in your virtual world. So if that's not true, just put down the phone and turn off the game.
Or just involve us. Multi-player games and TV shows we both like are completely fair game. Spending time together doesn't have to mean just sitting and staring at each other, we can do activities, but 'together' is the key word.
Make us feel like you actually want to be here. If you really do care about us, then let it show. We aren't trying to be naggy or redundant, we just need to know that this isn't a waste of your time or ours.
Because we truly do value our time together. So long as that feeling is mutual, then there'll be no problems. But the minute we feel like we're forcing you to spend time with us is when it all goes down hill.
Sitting next to each other in the same room, paying little to no attention to one another, isn't spending time together. Make your girlfriend feel like every minute spent with her is a gift, because it 100% is.
Value her. Cherish her. Show her you care. That's literally all we ask for.
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