I don’t care if guys find me pretty and neither should you. Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder and what someone sees as beautiful may not be the same as the next person.
I’d rather be told I was kind, a good person, intelligent and they were proud of me. I rather someone come up to me and share with me that I make a difference or that my ideas and opinions are valid and important.
I want to be known for having a good heart, for being a good listener and a shoulder to cry on when my friends or family are in need. I want to hear that I can be counted on and that I’ve never let someone down.
We as girls work so hard to be pretty. It’s addictive, it’s time consuming and when we don’t feel like we’ve achieved it... it can be devastating.
You see that first comment on your picture, “You look so beautiful” and of course you instantly smile because what you were trying to achieve has been accomplished.
They just keep flooding in, “You’re hair is so pretty”, “Your smile is beautiful” “Girl you look flawless” etc etc.
Some of us can’t even leave the house to go to the grocery store without putting on makeup. If we’re with friends or family we ask if our hair looks okay, if our makeup is alright.
We refuse to wear certain colors because we’re too “pale” and we refuse to participate in certain activities that require particular outfits because we’d look “too fat” in it.
Who decides how we should look? Who decided they were put in charge of what was and wasn’t okay to wear?
We work so hard for that perfect selfie, we figure the best ways to stand in photos with friends that accentuate our looks and hide our flaws.
Heaven forbid your friend takes a photo of you actually having a good time and tries to upload it onto the internet. You feel like because you don’t live up to the standard of “pretty” that it can’t be seen.
These are the things that are so much more important that being pretty. I rather be called all of these things than pretty any day.
I don’t need to hear daily that my looks either boost me up or hinder me. I know what I look like trust me I’m my own biggest critic. I know that I can afford to drink one less soda and hit the gym more than I do currently.
I know I look nicer when I actually put some effort into my hair and put some makeup on my face.
There is so much more to life than looking pretty.
I want to surround myself with people who look past your skin who aren’t shallow and let looks stop them from getting to know someone.
Words have the power to make and break a person. In the time it takes to make a rude comment, or make a remark on something you think could be better you could be empowering them. You can tell women they’re pretty but also tell women that they’re intelligent, that they’re appreciated and tell them they’re strong.
Don’t just stop at telling them they’re just another pretty face.
I can guarantee you I’m not that girl who’s looking to be just another pretty face.
We’re all individuals; we weren’t made to look the same. We all have flaws, we all have days we don’t like the way we look and we have days where we feel comfortable and beautiful in our own skin and that’s okay.
So no it doesn’t bother me if you don’t think I’m pretty because I am so much more than that and so are you.
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