Be the girl who turns him down, the girl that has so much going for her that she says “no” to the guy who would tear it all apart.
You know, the girl that knows how to stand up for herself and all the amazing things she deserves.
It may seem like every guy coming at you is some gift from the world, what you finally deserve for living life well and fully. But just because these men appear doesn’t mean they’re meant for you.
Sometimes, these guys are there to show you how strong you can be, to teach you how things have changed and how you’ve grown—all the ways you can stand up for yourself.
You are smart enough and strong enough to identify men who aren’t enough for you and everything you have to offer.
Take that step forward and do what you almost didn’t think you could do—tell him to leave, to go, that you don’t want that date.
Be the girl who turns him down, the one who is strong enough to be on her own.
Because you are, I promise you. You want to laugh at me and tell me I’m full of crap—I know it. But I’m not lying to you.
You are enough to be everything you can be all on your own.
One day, you won’t have to say no to the boys. One day, you’ll say yes to a man.
But until then, let them flop. Let them chase. Let them wonder.
Be you sweet girl, go and be free.
Let “no" be your new favorite word as you weed through the masses of guys who may or may not be worthy of you. Those standards you have? Hold them high. Stick to them. Do not waver.
Seek something good and, eventually, something good will find you. Just say no to everything that isn’t.
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