Are you allowed to use the word â€ścrushâ€? seriously when youâ€™re past the age of 12? Probably not. However, considering that phrases such as â€śon fleekâ€? are considered socially acceptable in this day and age, I believe that I should be granted the right to use it.
Crushes are weird. Sometimes you canâ€™t even explain what it is about someone that draws you in, but it just does. Maybe youâ€™re not even insanely attracted to them. Maybe something about them just sparks your attention, and you notice they have a way of consistently finding their way into your mind at any given moment.
When youâ€™re more of an introverted girl, you're not exactly batting your eye lashes and suggestively putting your hand on their knee. (Unless there's tequila involved, of course.) The few signs you do demonstrate arenâ€™t quite as blatantly obvious. They can also create awkward situations, or even be perceived as an indication that you are uninterested. Here are 5 things that shy girls do when they have a crush:
1. Laugh a lot. At everything.
Giggling is our natural reaction to nervousness. You're probably not that funny - but we're at a loss for words. Because you're hot.
Of course, the issues arise when the person begins talking about something on the serious side, and we laugh because we're not sure what else to do or say. This can be misconstrued, and there's a good chance that you may just look like an asshole. Good luck with that one!
2. Fidget like crazy.
I personally play with my hair. Others tap their feet, crack their knuckles, or even just kind ofâ€¦shake?
Actually actually getting asked if we're nervous is our own personal hell, even if the other person insists that it's "adorable." You weren't supposed to notice!
3. Use sarcasm aggressively.
Sarcasm is the flirtation technique that we feel the most comfortable using with the opposite sex. Itâ€™s playful, but not over the top. Of course, you may not find our cynicism to be endearing, or even believe that we hate you. To be fair, sometimes we actually do. If that's the case, innocent sarcasm will transgress to snide, bitchy comments. Don't worry - you'll know.
4. Maintain eye contact.
As shy individuals, eye contact isnâ€™t our strong point. Remember how difficult it could be to maintain eye contact with your audience while giving a speech in school? Well, that's how we feel all the time. Except there's only one person in the audience, but it's way more terrifying than speaking to your 6th grade class about Mesopotamia.
Therefore, when we do engage in eye contact, it demonstrates our level of comfort and trust. As menial as the task may seem, locking eyes is actually a pretty big deal for us.
5. Have a general strategy in mind.
Shy girls are typically planners. We donâ€™t speak without thinking, avoiding the risk of sounding stupid. So if we know we will be seeing you later, weâ€™ve probably already imagined how we would ideally like the conversation to go.
However, I donâ€™t mean going as far as writing out a detailed list of things to say, and practicing in front of the mirror. Thatâ€™s just weird. (I canâ€™t speak for everyone, though. Donâ€™t forget to pretend itâ€™s your grocery list when it falls out of your purse.)
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