Most people assume that when someone is asked to be the maid or matron of honor in a wedding, their responsibilities end with planning a party or two to celebrate the bride and groom. If you are under this impression, you are extremely mistaken and should probably pay very close attention if you’re about to say yes to standing next to your friend at the alter.
These are just a few promises you make to the bride when you accept the responsibility of being maid of honor at her wedding.
I promise to take my job seriously when I need to.
To make sure you have fun.
To make sure you don’t get weighed down with the stress of it all.
To make sure that neither I nor the rest of your bridal party add any stress to your plate.
To spend endless hours helping you plan the details.
I promise to spend endless nights with you prepping decorations and invitations.
To plan an epic bachelorette party.
To plan an equally as awesome bridal shower.
To make sure no one walks over you or pressures you into something you don’t want.
To be your ear and shoulder, and not get annoyed with you, even if you call me at two o’clock in the morning.
I promise to be completely honest when it comes to your dress.
But also 100 percent supportive.
To not let you get down on yourself if you don’t find it in the first go around.
To make sure you don’t get a snotty assistant at the dress shop.
To make you wait for the dress of your dreams and not let you settle for just anything.
I promise to make sure those days are all about you and no one else.
And to make sure your mom has plenty of tissues.
To share all of the cheesy and cute things I find for weddings.
To deal with vendors and details when you can’t.
To never let you get to that breaking point.
I promise to make sure you don’t do anything you’ll regret at your bachelorette party.
But to make sure you get unbelievably drunk.
And have an amazing time with your girls.
To keep us all out of jail.
And make sure we get home safe.
I promise to keep it all very classy, unless you decide we can do trashy.
To keep that night a complete secret.
And make sure the only evidence of that night is a cute before picture, a bridal party shirt, and a hangover the following morning.
To hold your hair back if that night doesn’t sit well….
Or maybe just get you a hair tie and ask if you’re okay through the door.
I promise to make sure you have absolutely no stress getting ready on your big day.
And to make sure you look your absolute best.
To make sure your girls are ready on time.
And we make it to the venue on time.
To make sure you are 100 percent sure before you walk down the aisle.
I promise to beat someone with my heel if they object.
To not ugly cry too much when you say your vows.
To fix your dress every time you have to move around for another picture.
To hold your dress when you pee…
Or make sure you have one of those new bags that’ll do it for you.
I promise to make an amazing, heartfelt toast.
And make sure the best man wrote one and doesn’t just try to wing it.
To try and make sure no one gets sloppy drunk.
But everyone has a great time.
To make sure you have a smile on your face the whole night.
I promise to not let you get too overwhelmed.
And to make sure you have a moment to yourself.
Or at least enough time to eat.
To dance the night away in celebration, even though I’m horrible at it.
- But most importantly, to be your best friend and stand by your side no matter what the process brings.
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