Oh the ball and chain, because that's all I am or at least that's what you think I am.
Not a wife, a girlfriend, a partner, or even a friend. I've been downgraded to "just pussy" or the "woman whose only there to make his life a living hell."
Urban dictionary definition of pussy whipped: is a man who compromises his manhood in order to pacify the woman in the relationship for the purpose of maintaining access to the vagina.
Urban dictionary for whipped: When a man is controlled by his girlfriend... almost entirely. To the point of embarrassment when his friends tell him his girlfriend has got him whipped.
Thank you urban dictionary for that educated response.
Actually, being pussy whipped is when a woman never allows her man to do anything without her consent or without her supervision.
The reason is because she doesn't trust him and is so insecure about herself and her relationship she can only control her man.
I guess what you don't realize is that when we get into happy and fulfilling relationships one that the love outweighs the lust and the desire to build a life together, the need to do stupid shit and blow money at bars just don't appeal anymore.
He does not need "permission" from his woman to go out, to hang out, or to even breath... like you make it sound.
Have you ever thought maybe he just doesn't want to go out?
Have you ever considered that prior plans have been made and it's disrespectful to change them just because you call an hour before and want to hang out?
You assume he's going to drop everything for you?
Have you ever thought that maybe "he always hangs out with me" because he enjoys my company?
So when he declines or when he invites me along... of course, it's all my fault.
Weird. I guess it's like a totally new concept to be best friends in a relationship.
You must believe that in order to have a relationship, we have to hate each other.
While you devalue me as "just pussy" rather than his partner, you consequently devalue him and the choice he's made to me love and commit to me.
He shouldn't have to apologize to you for respecting myself and his family.
This is what grown men do. They make responsible choices.
A grown man can do as he please but he also knows the consequences of his actions.
So please stop confusing his respect towards me as him being pussy whipped.
Respect is when he comes home at a decent hour to be with his family.
Respect is knowing that he cannot get shit faced because he needs to drive home.
Respect is keeping prior plans that you've already committed to.
I let him make his own damn decisions and he is responsible for the outcome.
A grown man can do as he please but he also knows the consequences of his irresponsible actions.
A grown woman who loves and respect her man will let him do as he pleases because she knows her value and she trusts he would never do anything to disrespect her.
That's the difference between being pussy whipped and respecting your woman.
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