We live in a society where we have timelines for relationships. We meet, we date, we move in together, we have a baby, and we live happily ever after. However, when you add distance into the mix, it’s not such smooth sailing.
When we think of LDR’s or long distance relationships, people immediately think of the longing and the pain of loving someone who isn’t easily in reach. But here’s the thing. Jumping into a LDR is completely worth it.
I started dating my boyfriend after a weekend of being with him, even with the ten hour distance between us. But thinking with just my heart, I knew that even though we lived in two different countries, we could still make this relationship work.
Now, I’m not going to lie either. It’s sucks. I wait for phone calls like they’re real dates and I still put on make up for our Monday night skype wine seshes. I go out at night with friends and there’s always a feeling that something is missing. That something being my love.
Even the weekends that my boyfriend visits are filled with so much love, however saying goodbye at the airport to him is by far the worst pain that I have ever felt. The taxi ride home is always a complete bawl session.
However, long distance relationships are also filled with love and appreciation that same city relationships don’t have. The longing and love that exists between people who don’t get to see each other every day is something of fairy tales and old love stories.
The few moments that I see my boyfriend are beyond wonderful and the love that we share when we're together makes me happier than anything in the world. We know the joy of being together more, because of the long periods of time that we spend apart.
So, here’s my humble advice. Take the plunge. No matter how long you've been together.
Love that's meant to last can withstand obstacles, including being hours apart from each other. It might sound cliché, but it’s true. Taking the plunge into a relationship like this might sound intimidating, but if you felt comfortable enough to be with the person in the same city, adding distance will not change those feelings.
The main thing we all need to realize is that every relationship is completely different. Whether we want to start a long distance relationship with someone who we’ve know for a week or for five years, it has to feel right for us. We have to be willing to make sacrifices, but only in a relationship that makes all participants happy.
The plunge is scary. It’s an extreme move that will leave a person vulnerable, especially if the relationship is mainly over Skype and Facebook Chat. However, if someone feels that they can’t live without another person, no matter what their location, then being together any way you can is the only way to go.
Don’t worry about pleasing the idea of the dating “timeline." Two people may not date, live together, and have a baby all in the same city, but their love might be just as strong, if not stronger than two people actually living together. The only way to know if the plunge is right is to follow the heart.
Four months later, I can easily say that taking this same plunge with my boyfriend was completely worth it. I took the plunge for love and never looked back.
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