To all the boys out there who will just be boys,
Enough is enough. I’m tired of hearing excuses.
Oh, little boys pull girls’ hair because they LIKE them! Boys will be boys.
Well, teenage boys objectify women—but they’re just being BOYS.
Yes, college boys sexually harass barely legal girls and then pressure them into having sex—they’re just boys having FUN!
Everyone’s been reporting on the frat boys at Old Dominion University in Virginia who “welcomed” freshman girls with huge banners that read "Rowdy and fun, hope your baby girl is ready for a good time," "Freshman Daughter Drop Off," and "Go ahead and Drop Off Mom Too."
Jezebel also included the senior dudes at Ohio State University in Columbus, who joined in with their own banners: “Daughter Daycare 2.0” and “Dads, we’ll take it from here.”
Another OSU house sported the sign: “Our couch pulls out but we don’t” and “Plan B = Plan A.”
Get it?! These boys are super cool dudes who’ve had sex with a real live woman before. Really, boys, I should be thanking you. Now freshman girls will know which houses are full of predatory creeps who spike their jungle juice and couldn’t find a clitoris with a road map.
And implying that women are more or less property to be passed from their fathers to douchebags in college? How romantic!
Yes, boys, you did get in trouble for your signs. Apparently, the Sigma Nu fraternity at Old Dominion was suspended by the national Sigma Nu organization until they can figure out which individuals were behind the whole nasty banner thing. So… that’s something, I guess.
Yeah, women are so politically correct, what with our wanting to be treated like people instead of sex objects. If it’s a joke, it’s not especially funny.
I know that it can seem like an overreaction to make a big fuss over words scrawled on a bed sheet. But displays like this normalize rape culture. The dudes behind these “funny” banners want us to think that boys acting sexually aggressive towards girls is all one big goof. But between 20% and 25% of women in college experience rape or attempted rape. That's nothing to joke about.
When people laugh off sexism and sexual harassment like it’s no big deal, people start to believe it really is no big deal.
It’s not just a Greek problem, either. I didn’t go to a big college. My school was small and wildly liberal. We didn’t even have frats. During the orientation session on preventing sexual assault, a boy next to me smiled and said, “Well, I don’t think things like that really happen here.” A few days later, I learned firsthand that he was wrong—assault happens on every campus. And downplaying sexual harassment is only going to make it worse.
What does it really mean when we set standards so low for male behavior? After all, why are expectations for boys set so low? Men should be insulted when people see gross displays of sexism and respond with, “Well, boys are like that.”
I know boys who aren’t like that. Why do we make excuses for the ones who are?
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