At some point in their lives, everybody feels like a bit of a hot mess, that they can't get it together no matter how hard they try.
It starts to feel like everyone and their mother seems to be killing it, and we can't even find two matching socks.
But even on the worst days, it’s good to remember that things aren’t as bleak as they seem:
1. You probably shouldn't have slept with your ex, but now you for sure won't do it again.
Those colossal fuck ups are what teach us to never make that kind of mistake ever again... EW.
You live and you learn. At any rate, you live.
2. Rule #9071: You're not bored, you're hungry.
Remember when you were a little kid, and you thought being an adult meant Eating sour straws for dinner and staying up all night without anyone telling you otherwise?
Well, chances are you’re slightly more together than that. Yes, you might indulge in ramen and pizza and late night carousing sometimes, but on the whole, you eat and sleep like an acceptable human person.
3. Your #Goals are #realistic.
Ok, you might not have a five-year plan (or a five-day plan), and you might not have the job you want (or any job at all).
But you’re starting to figure out what it is you want to do—or, at least, what you don’t want to do, which can be just as valuable.
4. You have a strong understanding of how you want to be treated.
Right now you might be feeling that forever alone feeling pretty hard, but every torturous date and awkward hook up brings you one step closer to knowing what you actually want out of a relationship.
Hey, at least now you know that you don’t want to date that guy who compared you to his mother on the first date!
5. You've got some quality friends.
If there’s one true friend in your life who you can groan at on the bad days and gush at on the good days, someone who will share wine and heartache and the aftermath of awkward job interviews, then you’re way ahead of the game.
6. You have a roof over your head, literally.
It doesn’t have to be fancy or especially clean, it just has to be a place where you can sleep and throw your stuff around.
When it feels like everything is coming apart at the seams, having a room of one’s own is a reminder that it’s not all bad.
7. You have the motivation... it just takes some effort to get to it.
The first step to having your shit together is actually you actually giving a f*ck about something.
If you can name at least one cause or subject or cute dog that you genuinely find interesting and worthwhile, then you’re farther along than a lot of people.
8. You are nowhere near the same person you used to be.
Change is good and you are definitely on the right track.